I am not even competing to be the best anymore.
I am competing to be alone.
Ab nahi dekh sakta aur bhakchodi.
Is it just me, or the more people I see, the more I wonder—have I taken so much load for “them” ?
The ideas. The expectations. The pressure. The constant need to have an opinion, achieve something, become someone, prove something.
The sheer thought of it is exhausting.
And honestly, the idea of getting away from all of this mentally, not physically, is at the top of my list.
Physically, I actually love being around people. That’s where the fun is. That’s where the conversations, the jokes and the roasting happen.
Maybe the solution is to go to the mountains or sit by a beach for a while, revive yourself, and come back stronger to roast everyone all over again.
And yes, if you noticed the word roast, you should probably check out my coffee article. You’ll understand.
But coming back to the point.
There is this ridiculous pressure to be different.
To stand out.
To be unique.
To be No. 1.
But how the fuck can everyone be No. 1?
And honestly, how can anyone be No. 1 all the time?
And how can anyone be No. 1 at everything?
Yet we somehow create this expectation for ourselves.
And then we get disappointed.
Chutiye ho kya bhai?
If you want to remain somewhat sane in 2026, 2027, 2028—and whatever comes after that until you eventually get burned out—here are three things I think you should start doing.
1. Stop chasing being different. Start being you.
Why the fuck do you want to scream:
“I am different.”
“I want to be different.”
“I want to be unique.”
Bro.
Everyone is.
Literally everyone is living inside their own head, thinking their own thoughts, fighting their own battles and believing their life is somehow uniquely complicated.
You are different?
Good for you.
You are the same?
Also good for you.
Nobody gives a fuck except your tiny, self-centred world.
And that’s actually liberating.
Once you establish this fact in your head, you stop doing things just for the sake of other people.
You stop competing with people you don’t even know you’re competing with.
And you start focusing on what actually matters to you.
Because when you eventually get burned, buried, cremated, or whatever way you choose to say goodbye to this world, I highly doubt you’ll be thinking:
“I wish I had spent more time proving that I was different.”
You’ll probably wish you had spent more time being yourself.
2. Stop judging someone’s entire life through one aspect of it.
This one is a big one.
You see a batchmate doing exceptionally well professionally.
Or your cousin gets a great job.
Or your colleague gets promoted.
And suddenly, you’ve created an entire image of their life based on that one thing.
“Bhai, look at him. He’s sorted.”
Are you sure?
Do you know how their love life is?
Do you know what their health looks like?
Do you know what happens when they go home?
Do you know if they’re dealing with anxiety, loneliness, family problems or debt?
Maybe they’re working their ass off because they’re trying to pay off a massive family loan.
Maybe the thing you are jealous of is the very thing exhausting them.
The stories are insane.
Yet we choose one tiny aspect of someone’s life, create an entire story around it and then judge ourselves against that story.
Why?
Let their life be their life.
You focus on your blessings.
Period.
You don’t know the full story.
And neither do they know yours.
3. Stop expecting everyone to follow the good thing you discovered.
This might be the most important one.
You discover something good.
A book.
A habit.
A diet.
A way of thinking.
A productivity system.
A financial lesson.
And because it worked for you, you immediately share it with everyone.
Which is great.
Knowledge is meant to be shared.
But then something weird happens.
You start expecting people to follow it.
And when they don’t?
You get annoyed.
Then offended.
Then somehow their refusal becomes a matter of your prestige.
Why, brother?
You found something good.
Good.
You told them.
Good.
They listened.
Great.
They didn’t?
Move on.
Don’t pin your discoveries on other people.
Don’t make your knowledge their responsibility.
Don’t turn your advice into a condition for your relationship.
Knowledge is meant to be shared, not forced.
Learn.
Enjoy.
Share.
And then let people be.
Because the moment you stop trying to control how other people live, you will be shocked by how much mental space you get back.
And that’s the whole fucking point.
Maybe sanity isn’t about escaping everyone.
Maybe it’s about being around people without constantly carrying them in your head.
Stop competing.
Stop comparing.
Stop controlling.
Stop trying to prove that you’re different.
Let people be people.
And let yourself be yourself.
I genuinely believe that if you start doing these three things, an insane amount of peace will enter your life.
You’ll get triggered less.
You’ll compare less.
You’ll expect less.
And your relationships will become healthier—first the one with yourself, and then the ones with everyone else.
And maybe that’s the kind of community I want to build here.
Not a community of people trying to become perfect.
Not a community of people trying to become No. 1.
Just a bunch of reasonably sane, civilised people who know how to let people BE.
P.S. For the sake of my internal linking obsession:
☕ If you want to understand my relationship with coffee, read my coffee article.
🧹 If you want to sort out your physical world while you’re sorting out your mental one, read my minimalism article.
🎥 And if you’re also new to this whole content-creation journey like me, drop me a hi or reach out on Instagram.
Maybe we build a community of people who don’t take themselves—or everyone else—so fucking seriously.
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